In my previous blog post, I mentioned that for the past couple weeks, I had felt trapped in a comparison game. I found myself comparing every aspect of my life with others, either through what I saw scrolling on social media, or even comparing myself against friends and family.
I definitely agree that looking at successful creatives in your space, is an amazing way to be inspired, but before you know it, you find yourself feeling disheartened like you aren’t good enough, not knowing that you couldn’t be further from the truth.
Today I am sharing, a few methods that I have tried and used to overcome comparison, however I wouldn’t be honest to myself, if I said I never struggle with comparison anymore, but I can honestly say, that it’s rare nowadays and when I do find, I know how to try and move past.
I know easier said than done right? But there really is no better place to start. We find ourselves scrolling endlessly through social media feeling small or like if someone else’s success was a punch in the stomach, the first thing to do is learn to react to this, ask yourself what has you feeling this way? Catch yourself in the habit and instead replace the negative thoughts for something you are grateful for.
And if you don’t like what you see on your phone simply unfollow them! Unfollow anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself, for any reason, learn to simply stop yourself and compare yourself to where you were yesterday and how far you have come.
- Focus on you
For example take the blogging industry, I have worked on the brand side, agency side and the blogging side, and I can tell you there is room for everyone on this little space called the internet and life. Brands are constantly looking to work with different bloggers, with different followings and niches.
Through my experience in the industry, I have met so many amazing entrepreneurs who even after congratulating them on their amazing content and work they come back with: “Thank you, but I’m nowhere near the quality of (Insert Instagram name) to then go on and list all the faults in their work. When all I could see was the amazing work, we need to remember that when you stop focusing on what everyone else is doing, you will find more time and energy to put into your own work, which after all is the most important thing.
- Celebrate your individuality
No two people are the same, and what a boring world this would be if it were to be any different. You are incomparable, your goals are incomparable, and your work is incomparable. By comparing ourselves, we forget about our own individual profess, and we begin to focus on only the visible improvements, when simply we need to trust the progress. Stay true to your own pace, trust where you are not where someone else is.
- Appearances don’t make a person
Lastly and the biggest one I have suffered with, while working in a rather superficial industry. How many times daily do we catch ourselves wishing we looked like the model in the latest billboard or have rock solid abs like the “fitness influencers” on the web. We all suffer with insecurities, I can sure tell you I have lost count of mine, but I am beginning to love my flaws. It is only when you realise that no one really cares about what you look like, that you begin to see that only you are your hardest critic. And as cliché as it may sound, don’t wish to look like somebody else, or envy them but rather admire their appearance, and learn to compliment their appearance.
For us to truly live our lives to the fullest, we must learn to get rid of any negative emotions holding us back, whether this be appearances, finances, career choices, or relationships.